How to Host a Quarantine Bachelorette Party

When my sister got engaged in March of last year, being a corona bride was not was she or anyone expected. Having to cancel all of her plans last minute and scale back the wedding to 10 people must’ve been extremely difficult for her. The wedding was beautiful, though, to say the least and I am so happy she and her husband, Kareem, decided to go ahead and get married instead of postponing.

Because nothing was going according to the original plan, I wanted to throw her the best surprise bachelorette/wedding preparation night she could dream of. She of course, knew we were gathering but she didn’t know what she was walking into.

Here’s how I did it, and here’s how you can too.


These are the balloons I ordered. Unfortunately the champagne bottle balloon did come with a hole in mine, but Amazon’s customer service did make up for it. All of the decor looked great. I spread the balloons all over the house on the floor, I put the ring balloon on the bed where my sister slept and the dancing men were strung outside where we ate our dinner.

Spa night!

I ordered this LED lamp on Amazon right before the pandemic really hit out of coincidence. Even better investment now that salons are closed or have limited availability or just simply should still be avoided if possible. Here are the nail polishes I use but feel free to order any of your own. I’m not a professional, so I will not tell you which tools to use on your hands or feet but I purchased these $2 tubs from Target. They fit all of our feet (size 5-10) Epsom Salts, which can be found at Target or Ulta and This scrub in a variety of scents. Do your research on Google or on YouTube for how you’d like to do your mani/pedi and decide which tools you’d like to use. We used gel polish on our nails and regular polish on our toes.


I like to use little razors to shape my eyebrows sometimes. These were fairly inexpensive from Amazon.

I already have a nice little collection of face masks from Formula 10 so we used these and everyone was able to pick a mask based on what their face needed. We did this while we did other things like prepping our hair or while I took off the gel polish that was already on my nails.


I preordered all of Alexa’s favorite foods/snacks from Walmart and did a grocery pick up about a week in advance to make sure we could get whatever was missing later. For the fresh fruit she requested, we picked up the night before. We also preordered all of the takeout to avoid any issues with delivery/pickup. We had sushi from a local Japanese restaurant for dinner, (chicken and) waffles for breakfast — only my little sister eats meat, and Panera for lunch which we ended up taking with us to the wedding venue. We also had lots and lots… and lots of champagne for all night, mimosas and during the day.

Clothing & custom things!

I made custom robes, slippers, and champagne flutes for us to feel a bit more luxurious while at my house. You can request custom items from my shop here. They definitely made the night more fun and came in use while we were doing our pedicures and while we were wearing our dresses and eating at the hotel. The champagne flutes were important to not mix up our drinks, especially during current times. All three items made for great souvenirs for our intimate, very fun, sleepover together.


IMG_1163The perfect word to describe my final semester of college would be “finally.” In addition to finally earning my degree, I finally had my first graduation ceremony after earning my high school diploma, as well as my associate’s degree. I finally became a member of the international non-profit organization, Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc. And I finally had an answer to the most asked question after finishing school: “what’s next?”

In high school I suffered from traumatic brain injuries while being an athlete on the varsity cheerleading team. I had to be homeschooled the majority of my high school career. I barely graduated on time because of the poor organization of the school system’s home education program for students unable to attend their public school. During this time, my grades, mental health, and motivation suffered. By the grace of God, I was able to finish my school work a few weeks after graduation and begin community college that fall. After two years, I transferred to North Carolina Central University,  where I earned my Bachelor of Arts Degree in Mass Communication with a concentration in Public Relations last Saturday. Getting to this point was not easy, but I worked hard enough to join two honor society’s, earn a degree of distinction, become the salutatorian, and graduate first in the mass communication department, all while working two jobs. I excelled much higher than my own expectations. I was able to go through four and a half years of school without a single C. At Central, I only received two B’s, earning my summa cum laude, 3.93 cumulative and final college GPA. I made it to the finish line, and I made every course count.

IMG_5124On November 12th, I became a woman of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc, the first greek-lettered sorority created for African American women. Words can’t describe the emotions felt with the initial information released in September. The wait was finally over. After going through the process, I now have 32 sisters (co-initiates) and over 290,000 sorors around the world I can count on to be there for me whenever needed. I am able to participate in projects designed for the betterment of woman and girls and encourage others to be best leaders and scholars they are capable of being. I am blessed to be a member of this wonderful network of talented, educated, women and to carry on the legacy of my mother and the organization, and to do so alongside my younger sister who also was newly initiated this fall.

IMG_1164“What’s next?” is a question I have been asked countless times and I am more than happy to tell the inquirer I am employed full time at Duke University Press! Since May, working at DUP has been amazing. My colleagues have always been extremely welcoming, friendly, understanding, and encouraging. I couldn’t imagine a better workplace.

Red Nose Day

Red Nose Day, organized by Comic Relief, uses entertainment to raise money and awareness to help kids who live in poverty (Red Nose Day). They have raised over $1 billion dollars for kids around the world in the last 25 years. In 2013 One Direction visited Accra, Ghana headed to Accra, Ghana and visited a pediatric clinic that benefited from the charity (Daily Mail). The boys in the band released a cover song of “One Way or Another”. All of the proceeds from the song went to help those in the clinic suffering from severe sicknesses such as malaria. With over 3 million sales worldwide, Niall shared this message to than fans for the support of the band and the cause: “We just want to say thank you to our fans for their generosity. They never cease to amaze us. We’re so very proud of our involvement and knowing that this money will make a real difference is the best part of what we do. Please continue to support Comic Relief and do what you can for this incredibly important cause. Love Niall. X” (Comic Relief). In its first week, the single topped charts in 63 different countries. According to Daily Mail, £850k was raised for Red Nose Day through single sales when their story was written. They were able to raise a total of 2 million British pounds to help the children of Ghana.

A series of videos were released by the band to raise awareness. The Daily Mail described one of the videos in their story. “As Styles sat on the hospital bed next to Kofi he was overcome with emotion and burst into tears. Using his white T-shirt to cry into the floppy haired star was inconsolable. He also met and was rather taken with two month old Gwendoline who was suffering with pneumonia.Gwendoline’s mother Philomnia held her daughter in her arms while Harry affectionately played with the tiny baby.” The videos shared helped people realize how privileged they are. In one of the released videos, Zayn Malik, a now former member of the boy band, repeatedly said that it only costs 5 pounds to pay for a vaccination to save a child’s life from malaria (Comic Relief YouTube video). It was an emotional day for the number one boy band in the world and brought a lot of attention to the cause to their millions of fans. Combined the One Direction Red Nose Day YouTube videos had nearly 18 million views, a major impact for the organization.

Bieber v Instagram

Justin Bieber and Sofia Richie. Photo credit: Justin Bieber via Instagram

Justin Bieber threatened to make his Instagram account private if his fans continued to post hateful comments about him and his girlfriend Sofia Richie (Daily Mail). The comments began after Bieber began posting several images of him and Richie in the backseat of a car (People).  A few days later his ex girlfriend, Selena Gomez got involved. She commented on his post “If you can’t handle the hate, then stop posting pictures of your girlfriend lol- It should be special between you two only. Don’t be mad at your fans. They love you and supported you before any one ever did” (Time). Bieber then responded It’s funny to see people that used me for attention and still try to point the finger this way. Sad. All love.” He later commented again “I’m not one for anyone receiving hate. Hope u can all be kind to my friends and eachother. And yes I love my beliebers.” actually deleted his Instagram account all together after making it private and public again all within a few minutes. The singer had 77.8 million followers. Gomez then posted a collage including pictures of her with her fans with the caption“My whole life. You matter most. Thank you letting me do what I love every day.” It did not directly mention Bieber but People wrote that the post “seemed to throw shade” at the singer.

Selena Gomez’s comment on Justin Bieber’s Instagram via Buzzfeed
When Bieber threatened his fans, many beliebers took to twitter to make fun of the fact that the singer did not realize that the 77.8 million followers he had would still be following him and would still see everything he posted if he went private. One tweet by the user @niazartkid said “does justin bieber knows that even if he puts his Instagram on private theres still about 77million ppl following him who will see his posts” the tweet had 138 retweets and 178 likes. Another tweet by @girlhoodposts had 106 retweets and 229 likes. It said”#SelenaEndedJustinParty Justin does realize that he has 77.7m followers and going private isn’t going to get rid of those… dumbass smh”. The hashtag used in the tweet trended with over 1.17 million tweets (Pinkvilla). According to Time many tweets in the hashtag were Gomez’s fans suppporting her, some were Bieber’s fans happy that someone stood up for them, others tweeting were just living for the drama and the shade. After Bieber deleted his account, Gomez took to Snapchat, sharing to her story an image that read “What I said was selfish and pointless” (Us Weekly).

A message from Selena Gomez via her Snapchat
This incident was not the first time Justin Bieber and Selena Gomez, AKA Jelena have hashed out their disagreements using social media and it certantly wasn’t the only drama Justin found himself in on the app. “Rumours have been a flying that Justin has been flirting with and dating Victoria’s Secret model Barbara Palvin, taking her to see The Lion King and getting close to her for pics; and now Selena has tweeted a picture of Justin that has ol’ Babs in the background,” shared Sugarscape in 2012. Lil Twist orriginally posted the picture and quickly deleted it. Gomez reposted the image with the caption “……” to Twitter (Hollywood Life). Instagram comments tend to get Bieber in Trouble. In January Bieber commented on Ariana Grande’s post saying she looked good. Grande then took to Twitter: “not today satan !!!!!! gtg finish this music & live my cute, drama free life !!” Another instance where Bieber got burned on Instagram was when he shared an image of Cindy Kimberly with the caption “Omg who is this!!” Apparently he didn’t notice the icon in the corner of the image signifying that she was tagged. Fans did and called him out on it in the comments saying “N*gga ifk why your 4th grade IQ equivalent ass brain didn’t think to look at the tag instead of sending us on a mission like we’re the next installment to blues clues” (Twitter).

Justin Bieber, Lil Twist and Barbara Palvin via Selena Gomez on Twitter
When you have 77.8 million followers, sometimes when you’re sharing personal things with that many strangers, it can get out of hand. The absence of Instagram in Beieber’s life may enhance it by creating less drama. Of course, it would also be easier for the singer if people weren’t so outspoken behind a keyboard. Many of the things said the the singer online would not be said to his face. This is especially true with fans and people he does not know. If other people did not get involved with his relationship with Richie, he may still have Instagram and the fight between Bieber and Gomez on Instagram may not have happened. Though it is one less social media platform to use to promote his music, the internet can unfortunately distort the way phrases are meant to be said. Sometimes taking breaks from social media can help keep a person sane. Bieber is learning to be more vocal about what needs to be done for his own mental health.

Zayn Malik’s Anxiety Battle

Zayn Malik made his struggles with mental health known to fans in June when canceling a performance at London’s Captial Summertime Ball (E News). Malik released a statement on Twitter the day of the performance apologizing to fans who were waiting to see him and letting them know that his anxiety had been “haunting him for months.” Malik said he was experiencing the worst anxiety of his career. In September, after canceling his June performance, Malik then canceled an October performance that was supposed to take place at the Autism Rocks Arena located in Dubai. “With the unfortunate cancellation of this show 117Live will ensure that ticket holders will receive full refund from their respective point of sales,” 117Live assured their customers in a statement. A letter written from Malik to his fans, apologizing and updating his “Zquad” on his mental health progress was included on the webpage.

Zayn Malik at the amfAR Gala Photo credit: Getty/Kevin Tachman


The approach the former One Direction star’s representatives took was an honest one. In the statements that were released, fans were given the chance to understand what the singer was dealing with instead of guessing and assuming the reasons the shows were being canceled. The official statements were both signed by the singer. This tactic removed the middle man and gave Malik’s fans a chance to understand the extent of his anxiety. Malik directly opening up about his struggle provided fans with a truth they could accept more easily than the message it from a representative. The statement for the first cancellation was posted as an image to his Twitter account without a caption. “I know those who suffer anxiety will understand and I hope those who don’t can empathise with my situation,” Malik wrote. In the second statement, The progress Malik has made with his anxiety was highlighted. He then went on to say he did “not feel confident” continuing with the plans to perform in Dubai. Both statements were person and sincere.

Zayn Malik’s Twitter statement announcing the cancelation of his performance at London’s Capital Summertime Ball. Photo credit: Zayn Malik via Twitter


Malik’s anxiety situation is very similar to Justin Bieber’s. According to Us Weekly in March, Bieber canceled the remainder of his meet and greets because the meet and greet events had been causing the singer to feel “exhausted to the point of depression.” Bieber also broke the news on social media, using Instagram to share his struggles with his mental health (Hollywood Life). “Love you guys,” Bieber wrote. ” I’m going to be canceling my meet and greets. I enjoy meeting such incredible people but I end up feeling so drained and unhappy…” According to Celebuzz, in 2013, Bieber’s battle with depression was worse than what outsiders could see. Scooter Braun, who is Bieber’s manager, feared that if The singer continued to work and tour at that specific time, Bieber could have died. Both Malik and Bieber and putting their mental health over anything else while still caring and respecting their fans.

Justin Bieber’s meet and greet Instagram cancelation statement. Photo credit: Justin Bieber via his now deleted Instagram page


Going from a group with four other people to being a solo artist, Malik’s situation is an unfortunate situation to be in. His anxiety is taking a toll on his ability to perform alone but Hhe and his team took the right steps to keep a connection with fans while informing them of his anxiety predicament. When being dishonest the truth sometimes finds a way to expose itself anyway, so it’s commendable that the statements or letters to fans were honest about his personal situation. As Malik mentioned, the fans that have anxiety can relate and understand the anxiety struggles he is facing when it comes to major solo performances. The opennes of the statements also gives others the chance to empathize with what he has been dealing with as a newly solo artist.